A woman has received support for her brave response after discovering her mother was involved in an affair with her husband, even expressing deep feelings for him in a heartfelt message.
A woman’s world was turned upside down when she uncovered that her husband had been having an affair with her own mother.
This betrayal hit even harder as she is currently four months pregnant and had no idea of the secret relationship until she checked her husband’s phone.
At just 26 years old, she stumbled upon the truth while her husband, who is 30, was in the shower.
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As she looked through his phone, she found messages that revealed an ongoing affair between him and her 52-year-old mother.
Her mother, who had been mourning the loss of her own husband for five years, seemed to find comfort in a relationship with her son-in-law.
Sharing her story on Reddit, she explained, “I honestly had suspicions about my husband cheating. I went through his phone and I’m sick to my stomach thinking about what I saw.”
“I saw pictures of my mum in lingerie and he was replying with pictures [of him naked]. I even saw a message of regret. He had said that maybe they should stop since he didn’t want to hurt me but my mum said I wouldn’t get hurt as long as they kept it all a secret. But what angered me the most was the message she sent a few days ago.”
“[Her mum’s message to her husband read]: ‘I love you so much. More than you think. You’ve helped me through the passing of my beloved ex-husband and for that I truly thank you. I know it is hard for you to keep a secret like this, and for me, it is too. I love my daughter with all my heart but she will have to accept eventually that love is love and that the heart wants what it wants.”
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“I thought that ever since my husband died, nobody would ever love me because I’m just an old woman but you have shown me to love myself and made me feel young and sexy again.”
The woman detailed how her mother had promised to stay single after her father passed away from a stroke five years ago, but it now seemed she had broken that vow in a way that no one could have anticipated.
Reflecting on this painful discovery, she continued, “I know they had sex after that message because that was the night he didn’t come home until 1am due to ‘work and paid overtime.’ I actually threw up after reading that message. I have screenshots of the messages and have sent the videos to myself.”
After some time alone to process her emotions, she decided to confront her husband about what she had found.
She described how he immediately “burst into tears” and then tried to shift the blame and control the situation.
She explained, “He told me that I would be a bad mother if I left him and raised my child without a father because a baby needs a dad in their life to fully grow mentally and physically.”
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Determined to move forward, she told him she would be contacting a lawyer to initiate a divorce.
Following this, she left their home and stayed in a motel for a few nights to gather her thoughts.
In a recent update, the woman assured her followers that she is safe and now staying with her cousin, keeping both her husband and mother out of her life.
However, she admitted that it has been hard to completely block them from her mind, especially given the depth of the betrayal.
She concluded her post with, “[My mum] messaged me just a few hours ago and I honestly do not have the heart to reply. It’s also made me rethink my situation.”
“‘I’m so sorry for the pain and hurt I’ve caused you. It was never meant to go this far. I love you so much, with every inch of my heart but you are not the victim. How dare you hold this against me and take away my right to see my one and only grandbaby? You are cruel. If you do this, you will forever live life regretting.”
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“‘Please do not do this to me. I am your mother, I love you. I have ended it with (my husband’s name.) We are no longer on speaking terms. Please push past this. A child cannot be raised without a father or grandmother. I love you. Please call me.'”
“I have a lawyer and am in the process of looking for an apartment. I have no intention of allowing either my former husband or mother into my child’s life but I’m also afraid that my child will grow up deprived of many child-father bonding experiences.”
Many Reddit users rallied around her decision to sever ties with both her husband and mother, showing strong support for her courage in moving forward.
Some even wished her strength for her child’s future.
One user remarked, “It’s amazing how she’s holding it together, but also keeping it a secret. I would scorch the earth. I would send the text and videos to both sides of the family. I would tell the world because if she wants to be the victim, I will help her be the victim.”
Another user chimed in, adding, “‘You are not the victim’ – I suppose you are? There aren’t words vile enough for this actual piece of s*** mother. I am so glad you are not entertaining any thoughts of letting either of them in her or her child’s life.”